This short guide is aimed at No Fault, or No Contest Divorce, but it will work for whatever
your situation might be, and it works ie, it’ll save you money, and a ton of peace of mind as
well.
The first thing you’ll need is a calm head, and a bit of clear thinking. If you can bear to be
in the same room as each other, and you are 100% convinced that divorce is the only
answer, then try this:
Try and meet somewhere neutral, not a bar, as we don’t want alcohol guiding poor
judgement, nor do we want interfereing friends present (however well intentioned).
The purpose of your meeting is to decide where to go from here, and more
importantly, who gets what.
This will help with the proceedings and it will aslo help both of you see what you will both
be walking away with – equally importantt in my book.
Now I am assuming that at this stage, you both have resigned yourselves to divorce, and
are both fairly happy with walking away with what you can, as well as some shred of
dignity.
For those that aren’t interested in this noble route, then try THIS. This is much more
devious, and is aimed at men, but if the ladies can gain an insight, then why not?
What you are going to do once you have talked, and verbally decided what you should
each get, is divide things up starting with the house contents.
If the meeting thing is not a good idea just yet – but you still want to both come away
happy, then you can make verbal lists, type them, fax them, email, whatever you want – but
at some stage, you are both going to have to walk round the house and make a very
detailed list of everything you have.
The reason for this is simple – divide your stuff up, without a clock ticking away the dollars,
without expensive phonecalls or arbitration over dining room tables etc, and whats more its
free – and it’ll help you have a clear picture of exactly what to expect. I know its going to
be hard, and it will be much easier if you can do this on separate days – ideally with the
person going first making the list of everything, and I mean everything – cds, dvds, cups,
pets, rugs, hifi and tv, everything.
Once they have made a master list for both of you, they can copy it, and place a check by
the things they would like – they can hand the original list (without checks), to the partner,
and they can then walk around and make similar check marks.
Do this a few times, and try and check the things you really would like, and not things
you’d like just so you can annoy your ex. Once this is completed, you can move on and do
the same with your bank accounts and other assets.

Remember, you have still not engaged a lawyer at this stage, this is all you guys, and it’s
cost nothing so far; just some self discipline, and a bit of time. The idea is to each have a
general idea of what the other wants to take away – and please, if you don’t want
something but know your partner will be upset if they don’t get it, do the right thing, and let
them have it.
Right, you can take a few days each over this, and walk around the house a few times, to
make sure everything is covered, if anything is missing from the list, add it, and let your ex
know.
Next, we will add the list into a document, or simply scan it and email it to your partner, or
hand them a copy.
Then, you each get a day or two with the others list, and yours, side by side.
Make another list of the things you are willing to concede on, and the ones that simply
cannot be given to the other.
Send these back and forth as required, until you have come to some semblence of an
agreement. This will be tough, and very stressful, but get it done, and you are good to go.
Prepare a final list (two lists actually) with both your names and what each of you wants.
For example:
John
Bed and all linen
Entire CD collection (full list attached).
Colin the dog.
Sony 32″ LCD TV (TS2112)
and so on…

Judy
Keith & Polly (Pet cats)
Dolphin dining room set (list pieces)
Giant Mountain Bike (Ladies)
and so on…
Sorry, but we are not quite finished yet…
Now do the same stages for the property you own, and if it’s not owned outright, who will
continue to live in the home, and what percentage of mortgage (if not all), are they going to
pay. What will happen to the home once it is paid for. What share shall each party get
should the property be sold etc.
Repeat for bank accounts, credit card accounts, loans, cars and car payments etc.
I appreciate that this is tedious, and dull, and extremely stressful. But you will save a load
of money, and some stress in the long run.

So in the end, you should have a complete list, of everything you owned between you, and
again I must say, this is pretty much it for no contest type divorces.
Type it up, and make it look good, it might also be an idea to get it witnessed by 2
independant individuals.
Now you can either use this as a document for the division of property, and a useful
reference should those rows begin, or you could get a lawyer between you, and ask them
to make your document, a legal one. This should only cost a few hundred dollars.
And thats it.
I wish you the very best of luck during this horrible time.
The Divorce Insider

In America, it is said that almost 50% of marriages will end in divorce, and surprisingly, it can cost just as much to divorce your partner as it can to marry them.

Therefore, guidance and advice, especially for women is essential when going through a divorce. But where can you obtain sound, knowledgeable advice?

The internet is a great source of information and advice but many sites contradict each other when it comes to what is true and what is not, therefore, a divorce lawyer is by far the best source of correct information.

Although most divorce lawyers claim to be the best, it is important that you use a reputable divorce lawyer who can guide you through the divorce process. There are various options available to women when going through a divorce and these should all be explained to you. For instance, if children are involved in the marriage then woman may need help and support financially whilst the divorce is going through. An experienced divorce lawyer will be able to organise all this for you through your ex partners divorce lawyer.

One of the most important things your divorce lawyer will ask you to do, and undoubtedly the most important piece of advice they can give you, is to keep all correspondence and records on anything to do with the divorce. This could well be letters from solicitors or ex partners and even the courts. It is extremely important that you are organised and have all your accounts in order before you go to court.

Another important piece of advice is to try and stay as amicable with your ex as possible. This may seem difficult at the time, but for any women going through a divorce, especially those looking for a financial settlement, it is extremely important. Remember, that at the end of the divorce process, your ex husband will need to sign and he may not sign anything at all if you continue arguing!

To obtain sound advice on divorcing your partner, please contact us today.

It is said that in the USA, the average cost of divorcing your partner is around $27,000, which is way too much for many divorcing couples to spend. Most of this is spent on legal consultations and fee’s however, these can be avoided relatively easily.

If you are going through a divorce, then by doing some leg work yourself and completing small tasks on your own, you can avoid having to hire a divorce lawyer. This in turn, will save you thousands on costly lawyers fee’s.

Undoubtedly, the easiest way in which to save money on your divorce, is by the help of divorce professionals online. Costing just a fraction of what a divorce lawyer will cost, online divorce professionals can guide you, step by step, through the divorce process.

They will assist with necessary paperwork and suggest you remain amicable with your partner throughout. This may seem difficult, and a few compromises may have to be made, but in the long run it could save you thousands. By being able to sit down and discuss such aspects as division of assets and debts, and who will get custody of the household pets, you will also save time, which, in turn will make the divorce process even quicker.

If the divorce process goes smoothly and there are no ‘contests’ to any of the agreements made in the settlement then an online divorce can cost less than a $1.000: a huge saving in comparison to hiring a divorce lawyer.

With the divorce rate rising each and every year, and lawyers fee’s running literally into thousands, more and more individuals are turning to online divorce professionals as a more cost effective alternative. Getting on with your life and putting the past behind you as quickly as possible is essential so online divorce is a must for any divorcing couple.

When we get married we presume it is for life, and for the majority of us, taking a vow to love and care for someone for the rest of our lives is taken very seriously. However, for a number of reasons many marriages can end in divorce.

Embarking on married life is always exciting and the prospect of starting a family and buying a family home is normally top of our list, yet as time passes and children grow up, many couples grow apart and may argue over a variety of matters.

Rising debts are often the main cause of family arguments and coupled with the stress created by this, many couples can end up divorcing. A lot of the time to blot out the worries of rising debts, couples can start drinking, which again can cause a partner to divorce his or her spouse. Physical and mental abuse are another reason citied in the divorce courts with infidelity being the most common.

Trial separations’ are always a good idea to try and save your marriage and especially useful if children are involved. By living apart for a little while, couples can begin to appreciate one another once again and, little by little, start to rebuild their marriage. It is well to remember that children are said to be the most affected when their parents divorce so avoiding a messy divorce and trying to salvage your marriage is always advisable.

Unfortunately though, in many cases, the marriage can be beyond repair and no matter how many times things are talked through and problems discussed divorce can be the only solution.

If this is the case, and both partners are in agreement that a divorce is the only way forward, then get in touch with an online divorce lawyer who will be able to begin divorce proceedings with the minimum of stress.

Try and be as amicable with your partner as you can, whatever your differences maybe, to avoid a messy, drawn out divorce.

Child Custody Laws varies in America from state to state. One can obtain the most current information from his state’s law. When it comes to children custody Laws, there are some states that have all the procedures laid out to make the life of divorcing parents and their children easy. The court judges also follow these guidelines to help in determining the custody of the child while divorce.

There are very few federal laws applicable to child custody. Some of them speak about transporting of children across different states. Some states have laws that also deal with the jurisdiction of other states. But your state may or may not have such provision. Hence it is advised that you check all the provisions in the law of your state before you start with custody of your child. So if both parents lives in different states, the state where the children live will have influence. Of course you have to see where the law suite for divorce and custody has been filed. You cannot file for custody in a state where none of the parents reside.

Children custody Laws have been prepared considering interest of the children. The law makers have tried to make sure that the custody of a child doesn’t go to abusers of alcohol or drug. They have also tried to protect the children from going into an environment where they may be subjected to mental or physical abuse.. Many states offer joint-custody between the two parents, where they get to be a functional part of bringing their children up. In this case, both parents share physical and legal custody of their common children. This situation is most beneficial to understanding parents. But some parents also try to exploit this privilege by dishonoring the law.

One needs to understand the different between Physical and legal custody. Often parents make mistakes in understanding this difference only to repent. If the child is living with a parent, then that parent is said to have physical custody of that child. Also a parent has a physical custody of a child if it stays for a large portion of time with that parent. It is a common practice with children to go to another parent during summer vacation. A physical custody goes from one parent to the other during such situations.

Legal custody speaks about the rights and responsibilities that allow parent to make important decisions about education, health, and well being of their children. In most cases, both legal and physical custody lie with the same parent. Joint custody is an exception to this rule. In joint custody, courts decides which parent the legal custody must remain with. Things are easy when there is a consensus between parents about what is good for their child.

One must look into the child-custody laws of his state to decide what the best solution is for you and your child. It is advisable to put child’s interest first while making custody decisions.

Yes, this article speaks about ways to avoid divorce when your marriage is in trouble. Materialistic happiness and busy life are making relations between spouses strained. But that does not mean that their love for each other has subsided. No marriage is perfect. There are times in life when spouses may feel that they are growing apart from each other. This happens because they cannot give enough time to each other. But very few sane people take time to understand it. One must know that divorce is not an option in every case. If you are one such person who thinks their marriage is in trouble then you must try to save it before you choose to go for a divorce.

If you want to save your marriage, then you must know that there are plenty of ways to help you. The reason of the problem is what one must have to start working on as a first step. For example, if your spouse is unfaithful, counseling him/her may help sort things out. To err is human and to forgive is divine. If your spouse has admitted his/her mistake and is willing to correct it in order to save your marriage, you must give him/her a chance. This thing is more important for couples having children. Always remember that a mistake of yours can ruin future of your children. Therefore, one has to identity the reason for the problem, before doing anything.

Some might not believe, but financial problems is the second reason for divorces after infidelity. Most couples work full time to help pay for the car, house, bills, raising kids, vacation, etc. Some couples, especially wives tend to spend more than they earn. Overspending on credit cards is the common form.

When more money is spent than what is earned, money-borrowing happens. But when borrowed money cannot be re-payed, the relations start straining. If there is marginal difference between the earnings of husband and wife, the things go worse. The low-earner feels threatened and his ego is hurt. If this continues for long time, the relationship turn worse from bad, resulting into demand of divorce from one of them.

There are marriage counselors who could be of great help in such cases. Many couples don’t admit to themselves that they need marriage counselors. But it is strictly advised that before your marriage reached to a point of no return, you should keep your ego aside and visit marriage counselors. They help you see the things from a different perspective. They help you find ways you had never thought of. By the time you are done with counseling you are convinced that what you were thinking a disastrous marriage is actually a lovely marriage. What you needed was little understanding and reminding of your old lovely times.

Counselor will effectively tell you that the money that you both earn belongs to both of you and there is nothing individual money in marriage. Both earning and spending belong to both of you and you should think about it together. He will help you understand that the marriage is about both of you and not about two individuals staying together.

Last but not the least, they say broken glass cannot be joined. So think twice before you choose to take the step of divorce. Do something that you won’t regret. Be happy.

One of my closest friends got divorced recently. After all his efforts of keeping marriage failed, he filed for a divorce. As the trouble of getting divorced wasn’t enough, he got problems with his lawyers too. He had to spend $30000 just to be able to see his own children. He changed three lawyers in this process of divorce. During this time, one thing he noticed was that he was never directly allowed to talk to judge and the lawyers never told judge what he wanted them to tell. The entire experience was so frustrating that in the end he dismissed all his lawyers and decided to represent by himself.

One very important thing in the divorce proceeding is that “Never piss off the judge”. Like every other business, relations matter in court too. The lawyers have good relations with other attorneys and judges. For lawyers, a client is one time but relations are forever. He cannot jeopardize his career by spoiling his relations with judges or with other lawyers. The judges are to court what gods are to temples. The judiciary system is always full of cases and the pile of work always goes on building no matter what. In such brain crunching situation, judges always have a pressure to wind up the cases as fast as they can. And It’s the lawyers who help them do it. So it’s not good to piss off a judge. The lawyers very well know this.

One can represent himself in court of law. You need not necessarily have to have a lawyer to represent you. Some people even choose to represent themselves in the court. But their number is very less. Besides it’s not easy. The knowledge of law and way of representing is a serious matter. Also stakes are very high in divorce cases. So it is advisable to get a good lawyer to represent you in the court of law in divorce cases.

In divorce cases, where stakes are high, it is always good to choose a best lawyer. It is recommended that money should not be given the priority while choosing a divorce lawyer for you. Also see that if he has previous experience of fighting divorce cases. Checking his record of winning divorce cases will give you necessary confidence. In court of law, experience matters more than sheer intelligence.

Though there is no way to know if your lawyer is doing what is best for you, you can get an advice from other lawyers too. You can tell the progress of case to another lawyer (who is of course not related to this case) and get his opinion on the progress of the case. This will give you knowledge and confidence about progress of your case. This will avoid surprises in the end.

If you ever have to represent yourself in the court of law, here are some basics of good courtroom behavior that you must know of.

1. Never digress. Try to make your points quickly and logically.
2. Always look directly in the eyes of judge when talking.
3. Forget about your ego and grovel. Address judge as “your Honor”. Also use phrases like “with all due respect”, “forgive my ignorance” and things like that.
4. Be well dressed. The casual cloths don’t suit courtroom environment.
5. Follow first 4 rules religiously.

However you know about courts and lawyers, it’s still less. Some faith is also required. So make sure to find a lawyer you can trust. Best.

For traumatic wounds to heal, usually the victim of abuse requires closure. There requires one final interaction of victim with her tormentor in which he  acknowledges his misconduct and even asks for an apology. Fat chance though. Very few abusers – especially who are narcissistic – have been amenable to weakling pleasantries like these. Usually, the abused has been left to wallow in a her poisonous stew of self-pity, misery and self-recrimination.

Depending on the duration, severity and nature of the abuse, there can be  three forms of effective closure.

1. Conceptual Closure:

This is the most common variant of closures. It involves a frank dissection of the abusive relationship. The parties are asked to meet each other in the presence of a mediator to analyze what went wrong. They discuss to allocate blame and guilt, to learn their lessons, and to part their ways as amicably as possible.

The abuser also disabuses the victim of the notion that she, was guilty or responsible, in any way, for her maltreatment. This helps remove the guilt from victims mind that that she deserved to be punished, it was her fault, and that she should have tried to save the relationship. With this burden completely gone, the victim is once again ready to resume her life. She becomes emotionally stable and strong to seek a new companion and love elsewhere.

2. Retributive Closure:

When the abuse is “gratuitous” (sadistic), protracted, and repeated conceptual closure is not good enough. Retribution is called for, an element of vengeance, of restorative justice and a restored balance. Recuperation hinges on punishing the delinquent and merciless party. The penal intervention of the Law is often therapeutic to the abused.

Most of the times, the understandable emotions of victim lead to abusive acts. A lot of of the tormented stalk their abusers and take the law into own hands. Abuse breeds abuse.

3. Dissociative Closure:

Absent the two forms of closure, victims of prolonged and egregious and cruel mistreatment tend to repress their painful memories. In extreme cases, they dissociate. The Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) – formerly known as “Multiple Personality Disorder” – is thought to be result of such an act. The harrowing experiences are “sliced off” and attributed to “another personality”.

Sometimes, the victim tries to assimilate his/her tormentor and even openly and knowingly identifies with him. This can be termed as the narcissistic defense. In his own anguished mind, due to helplessness, the victim becomes omnipotent and, hence, invulnerable. He/she develops a False Self inside her. The True Self is, thus, thought to be protected from further damage, harm and injury.

According to the theories of psychopathology, the cause of all manner of mental health disorders lies in repressed content rendered unconscious. The victim thus pays a very hefty price for avoiding and evading his/her predicament.

As NJ divorce attorneys, we are trained to be advocates in the process known as “adversarial. Many of us self-selected into the legal profession partly because our underlying personality and temperament traits are geared toward advocacy. Similarly, lawyers “the good ones” are typically quite inquisitive. Their questioning techniques, however, often take on the tone of cross-examination.

We can all stand to improve the way we practice the non-adversarial, settlement-oriented part of our profession by paying attention to the way we employ the principles of advocacy and inquiry.

Advocacy is stating one’s views. Examples of advocacy include: sharing how you’re feeling; describing what you’re thinking; stating a judgment; pushing for a particular course of action, decision or outcome; and making demands.

Inquiry is asking a genuine question. By asking real questions, information is truly sought. Rhetorical or leading questions are a kind of advocacy in disguise. We’ve all observed journalists and other questioners with not-so-hidden agendas pose inquiries such as, “Isn’t it true that your administration’s domestic fiscal policy has done a disservice to the elderly?” Another loaded style of pseudo question-asking might go something like, “Some people (not me, of course) might say that you handled yourself rather poorly in the first two debates. How would you respond to such criticism?”

In any discussion or conference we are engaged in, we can be high or low on advocacy. The same can be said for inquiry. Regardless of whether our advocacy and inquiry levels are high or low at a given instance, we can come across positively or negatively, depending upon our style, intent and often habit.

For instance, if we are operating from a high advocacy, low inquiry perspective, we come across quite positively if we are truly explaining our point of view. Cramming our viewpoint down the other party’s throat, conversely, is a destructive tendency. It should be mentioned that high advocacy/low inquiry results in one way communication, even if both people are engaged in it. It can be useful for giving information, but doesn’t enhance understanding of diverse perspectives or build commitment to a specific course of action. Advocacy that imposes the proponent’s views on others usually creates either compliance or resistance.

On the other hand, If we are geared up in the inquiry department, but toning down the advocacy, we can conduct meaningful, non-threatening information gathering interviews, or we can find ourselves falling into interrogation mode; a natural tendency for many NJ divorce lawyers. High inquiry/low advocacy results in one way communication in a different sense in that the inquirer refrains from stating his or her views or beliefs. While it can be quite useful for finding out information, it can create difficulties when the inquirer has a hidden agenda, or is really using the questioning process as a device to get the other person to “discover” what the inquirer already thinks is right, or both.

There are certainly times when keeping both advocacy and inquiry levels to minimum is the way to proceed. This is what we’re doing well when we are observing or listening attentively. The flip side in this realm is withdrawal. We’ve all observed this in four-way settlement conferences when a sore topic is being discussed, with one spouse preaching from the soapbox while the other checks out mentally and glazes over. Low inquiry/low advocacy also flows in one direction: Participants watch, but contribute relatively little. This approach is ideally employed when being a tacit observer is useful, but it can create difficulties when participants withhold their views on key issues.

Finally, in the context of energetic sessions when we are high in both advocacy and inquiry departments, mutual learning or appreciation of each other’s viewpoints is the objective. High advocacy/high inquiry fosters two way communication and learning. I state my views and I inquire into yours; I invite you to state your views and inquire into mine. We must be careful, particularly in the context of settlement talks, not to over-work the process. When excessive communications generate too much information density, participants become worn-out, irritable and confused or overwhelmed. Positive energy is a great thing, but it’s also important to keep dialogues down to a manageable pace. Participants need time for things to sink-in. Managing the pace of high advocacy, high inquiry discussion is also indispensable when taking into account the differences between introverted and extraverted (not a spelling error, but rather the Jungian term) personality types. While extraverts often relish high pace, high energy dialogue, introverts often find them quite distracting, if not frankly annoying.

Balancing advocacy with inquiry is necessary. Taken alone, however, the balancing process is not enough to promote a positive meeting of the minds. In order for this to occur, the quality of advocacy and inquiry is also vital. For example, “That’s a really moronic comment. How long did it take you to come up with that one?” is both a statement and a question, but it doesn’t encourage negotiated problem solving. Ideally, our use of advocacy should involve providing information to others and explaining exactly how we moved from observing or collecting this information to our view of the situation. Competent use of inquiry entails honestly seeking others’ views, probing how they arrived at them, and encouraging them to challenge our perspective. Balancing high quality advocacy with high quality inquiry makes significant breakthroughs possible.

A DOZEN PRACTICE TIPS

If we assume that we are obviously right and that our job is to get others to realize what we already know, we will be unable to promote either agreement on a specific issue or ultimate settlement. Accordingly, we are well advised to:

(1) Assume from the onset that we may be missing things that others see, and seeing things that others miss. If we begin with this assumption, the result is that we will listen more intelligently and inquire more genuinely without downplaying our own views.

(2) Assume that others are acting in ways that make sense to them and that they are motivated to act with integrity. (This advice applies, regardless of whether you believe another to be Demon Seed or the reincarnation of Mother Theresa of Calcutta.)

(3) Attempt to understand what leads to behavior that we find problematic. Are others caught-up in dilemmas? Are we contributing to any problems?

(4) Help others to understand or appreciate our viewpoints and how we think about them by giving examples of the underlying data we select. Go on to state the meaning that we find in the examples, and explaining the steps in our thinking to others.

(5) Describe our understanding of the other’s reasoning.

(6) If we notice negative consequences to what others may be doing, identify the consequences without attributing any intent on their part to create those consequences. Distinguish between intent and impact; between motive and outcome.

(7) When choosing to disclose our emotions, we must endeavor to do so without implying that the other person is primarily responsible for creating our emotional reactions. Remember also Eleanor Roosevelt’s observation that no one can make us feel inferior without our permission.

(8) Find out how others see the situation by asking them to give examples of the information they selected from which they necessarily drew the inferences which lead to their conclusions. Ask them to explain the steps in their thinking.

(9) Ask for help in finding out what we may be missing by encouraging others to identify possible gaps or errors in our thinking.

(10) When we have difficulty with how others are acting, ask them to explain what has prompted them to act as they have done, in a tone that suggests they may have a reasonable answer.

(11) Inquire into others’ feelings and emotions, but don’t ask, “What’s your problem?” or “Why do you get so worked up?” Say, instead, “You appear to be sad about something, am I right? Do you feel comfortable talking about it?”

12) Ask for help in exploring whether we are unknowingly contributing to the problem. Quite often, well-intended action on our part is problematic for others.

These tips have been extraordinarily helpful to many, both in their work and private lives. I hope that you will find them helpful.

Along with an emotional trauma that divorce brings, it also brings monetary loss to parties involved in divorce. Some money loss can be easily seen, other can’t. This article speaks about tangible money loss that couples undergoing divorce have to suffer.

Many divorces have a loads of financial issues such as taxes, child support, debt,reallocation of property, etc. Usually spouses share a loads of assets, like from furniture to bank balance and from stocks to pets! Some of them are sentimentally attached to you. eg. sofa presented by your mother on your wedding. It is always advisable that couples divide their assets amicably. Selling the property and dividing the profits could also be an option that lot of people are opting. This way you get your exact share instead of getting less or more. But both have to incur the loss of selling depreciation.

Naturally, assets are most coveted in divorce whereas debts are least desired. But you have to take both of them. Both the parties involved in divorce, along with their lawyers can decide on dividing the assets and debts. more the assets, more the debt. Simple rule. Never ever accept debt in an inappropriate amount of assets you are getting. One party usually may tend to accept the terms laid down by other party. But remember that it is your only chance for fair share. Once you accept the settlement, there is very little or nothing that you can do later. So be cautious.

Divorce changes relationships. So your spouse who was nice to you till now may suddenly turn harsh on you. So be careful while trusting your spouse during divorce. Also many tax exemptions and deductions are changed after divorce. One needs to take care of them. Things you used to take granted change after divorce.

Child support and alimony are important factors of divorce settlement. They consume your lot of money. There is very little you can do about it as courts will decide these things for you.

As after divorce, couple resides separately, their cost of living increases. Hence they cannot afford same luxury that they use to offer to their children previously. This, in some cases, take their children away from that parent. So you must have your calculation ready for separate living. Also speaking to children about your financial situation helps. In most cases, kids, even of small age, understand their parent’s situation and adopt themselves to new lifestyle.

As marriage unites two families, divorce affects two families too. If you have a joint family, all members of the family have to go through unpleasant suffering of divorce. It’s always better to speak to you family about your divorce. In many families, family members keep amicable relations to divorced-in-law even after divorce. This is a good sign of civilized society.